It seems when it comes to happiness people are always missing the middle ground. It’s so sad to think of the buoyancy of childhood and then the dull and lifeless drudgery that so many people turn their adulthood into. On the opposite spectrum of that sort of soul sucking adulthood is the child that never grows up but not in a good way. In an annoying immature dysfunctional never getting their shit together way that also isn’t productive and never truly allows a person to develop. So what to do to keep yourself happy and free with that inner creative spark and interest in life that you had as a child when adulthood claims you?
It’s about keeping the balance by combining the adult life with the remembered or at times discovered joys of childhood. Sitting down with a beloved toy or two after a shit day at work can really be soul soothing. Or fuck that, stick the toy in your jacket pocket if you want and take it along to hold during a break…in the bathroom or in a remote corner of the office where no one can see you…Okay now it’s getting weird, a little…
But you get the idea. The toy or toys bring to one’s sound the remembered joy of childhood and it balances out whatever boring thing may be going on so that you have both. It gives you the creativity and interest to make things better in potentially surprising ways. It’s nice to discover that you can surprise yourself.
Finding old toys from when you were a kid on ebay is always fun and quite possible. Also discovering new childhood traditions can be just as good and refreshing. Discovering new excitements that you may have liked as a kid can be more fun than you may think. It’s easy to say, “Yeah I’d have liked that as a kid, too bad I”m too old now.” But you never are. You don’t have to be.
I was born in Russia and we didn’t do the Santa thing at Christmas for example. I always wanted it, cause who wouldn’t want Santa? My wife, being American, really enjoyed that growing up and wanted me to experience it as well. So she makes sure I get the stocking and surprises at Christmas as she did. No she doesn’t dress up as Sexy Santa, though that could be hot, but I get things in my stocking that I would have liked as a kid but can still enjoy now. Things that she got as we have so many common interests. Candy, little collectable figures, holiday nuts, it’s just as fun as an adult to receive these things as it would’ve been as a child. Granted the adult perspective is different as with maturation of the brain it just has to be, so yes the enjoyment is a bit different due to the fact I’m no longer a child, but it’s still there and it does give my inner child the Santa sort of Christmas he always wanted to experience growing up in Russia yet never did. I look very forward to Christmas and it’s great.
Recently my wife decided that she missed her cabbage patch doll so found a similar one on bay from the early 80s. She decided to get me one as well, saying I’d probably have had one as a boy as they made boys so that little boys could also have cool dolls to play with. Now we have matching cabbage patch twins. Cute little things with red hair. Mine is a boy with short curly yarn hair and I enjoy looking at him as it’s neat to have something from the 80s that I could have had were I living in US. I named him Dan and we get along fine. Do I play toy soldiers with Dan as I would have if I’d gotten him when I was 4? No, but looking at his silly grin is cheering and it’s another thing to keep me feeling young.
So if you miss your favorite toy, find it on ebay. It will make you smile and ad to your day daily. If you never got to do something you wanted to as a kid, do it now! Not it won’t be exactly the same, but you’ll still enjoy it even if differently and it keeps your soul happy. It keeps life interesting.
I think a lot of the reason adults drink and do hard drugs or even too many soft drugs to a too constant level is because they miss the natural joy they had as a child without having to get high. I’m not saying I don’t like absinthe from time to time, or a good wine or vodka, but I don’t need it to relax or feel happy because I keep my soul young with other stimulus and it works.